About Tyler Mallett
Sex & Intimacy Coach working in Canada & with clients globally.
In 2019, everything changed
I was living in Calgary, running my family’s business, and in a long-term marriage that was once full of love.
On paper, it all looked stable.
But the truth?
I was checking boxes in both work and love, and I’m not a box ticker.
That year, I sold the business, and my marriage ended. It was the unraveling of the life I’d known, and the beginning of a new one.
That unraveling pushed me to reflect deeply on what hadn’t worked in past relationships. It wasn’t just the loss of intimacy, but it was the erosion of communication, of being truly seen and heard. I wanted to understand why, and I didn’t want to repeat the same patterns.
So, I returned to university, earned a BA in Psychology, and spent the following years working at a psychology clinic.
But the deeper learning came from my own lived experience. Dating again after 15 years felt like landing in a new country with no map. The landscape had changed. There was a new language around connection, desire, and identity that I had never been taught.
That curiosity led me to explore new ways of understanding intimacy and communication, including approaches that challenged what I thought I knew about desire and connection.
And something shifted.
When I started showing up as my authentic self, honest about who I was, what I wanted, and how I related, everything became clearer.
More honest. More connected. More real.
But here’s the truth:
I had to face something I’d spent years avoiding.
I didn’t know how to ask for what I wanted. Not in my marriage. Not in the bedroom. Not even in my life.
I had always been the fixer, the provider, the steady one. But inside, I felt stuck, like I had lost my voice somewhere along the way. Rediscovering it meant confronting shame, unlearning the beliefs I had absorbed about masculinity, sex, and vulnerability, and choosing to show up fully in every part of my life, even when it felt uncomfortable.
These days, I help people find what I spent years searching for. Real connection, deeper trust in themselves, and a more honest relationship with their desire.
I work with people who are tired of feeling stuck. Whether it’s the quiet disconnection that builds over time, the uncertainty that comes after a relationship ends, or the pull toward something they haven’t quite been able to name yet.
Because I’ve been there, and I know how easy it is to settle into something that doesn’t fully feel like you.
You don’t have to keep pretending. You don’t have to stay quiet. You don’t have to stay disconnected.
Instead, you can create a deeply nourishing, wildly playful, and authentic relationship with yourself and others.
