About Tyler Mallett

Sex & Intimacy Coach working in Canada & with clients globally.

In 2019, everything changed

I was living in Calgary, running my family’s business, and in a long-term marriage that was once full of love.

On paper, it all looked stable.

But the truth?

I was checking boxes in both work and love, and I’m not a box ticker.

That year, I sold the business, and my marriage ended. It was the unraveling of the life I’d known, and the beginning of a new one.

That unraveling pushed me to reflect deeply on what hadn’t worked in past relationships. It wasn’t just the loss of intimacy, but it was the erosion of communication, of being truly seen and heard. I wanted to understand why, and I didn’t want to repeat the same patterns.

So, I returned to university, earned a BA in Psychology, and spent the following years working at a psychology clinic.

But my real education came from somewhere else: I started studying Tantra, exploring the world of BDSM and kink, and learning how we actually communicate our desires.

Dating again for the first time in 15 years felt like landing in a new country with no map. Online dating had exploded. Polyamory was more mainstream. There was an entirely new language around sex, identity, and connection.

In this evolving landscape, I discovered something powerful: when I started showing up as my authentic self, honest about who I was, what I wanted, and how I loved, everything got easier.

More honest. More connected. More fun.

But here’s the truth:

I had to face something I’d spent years avoiding.

I didn’t know how to ask for what I wanted. Not in my marriage. Not in the bedroom. Not even in life.

I had always been the fixer, the provider, the steady one. But inside, I felt stuck, like I had lost my voice somewhere along the way. Rediscovering it meant confronting shame, unlearning the beliefs I had absorbed about masculinity, sex, and vulnerability, and choosing to show up fully in every part of my life, even when it felt uncomfortable.

These days, I help others find what I spent years searching for—real connection, deeper trust in themselves, and a more vibrant, fulfilling sex life.

I help individuals and couples who are tired of feeling stuck, whether it’s the dull ache of a sexless relationship, the frustration of modern dating, or the quiet longing to explore desires they’ve never spoken aloud.

Because I’ve been there, and I believe you don’t have to settle.

You don’t have to keep pretending. You don’t have to keep quiet. You don’t have to stay disconnected.

Instead, you can create a deeply nourishing, wildly playful, and authentic relationship with yourself and others.